Talking to a friend,the other day made me realize how most of us are desperately trying to escape from being alone cuz it makes us feel lonely...
Why am i even talking about it?cuz I've been there.It's not one of those philosophical articles people write just cuz they don't have anything better to do.It is,in fact,my way of sharing what I've learnt over the years..
The first thing that the constant feeling of loneliness points out is- Lack of self love.
While it is possible and even inevitable to get bored of being alone but feeling lonely when you don't have company for a few hours definitely shows that you have some unresolved issues to deal with..& in most of the cases,this arises because you don't like spending quality time with yourself..you need a stimulant to make you escape this feeling & the silence & divert your attention to other 'fun' things than your issues.
Solitude on the other hand should be a chance to embrace all that is within you.Silence does wonders if we listen to what it's screaming.Our voids get a chance to come out.Now instead of paying heed to them,we run away from them cuz they possibly make us sad.
Now running away from yourself isn't the answer,it is never the answer.You can spend years around people having fun but in the end,you'll have to come back to yourself.
Introspect,spend time with yourself..Know what it is that haunts you & deal with it..HEAD ON.
Most of us,including me,usually see the cover up instead of the problem.For eg-If we are having a breakout,then we tend to think something ruined our mood,maybe or maybe,it's 'one of those days' but what we ignore is the underlying problem.
It's like your car met with an accident & you're putting away the whole incident saying "it was just an accident" instead of finding out it's cause.
In the end what's gonna happen?you're more likely to meet with the accident cuz of the same problem AGAIN.
what's the solution?dig deep..know what it is that is going wrong & fix it.If you can't fix it,ask for help.Embrace yourself,the complete you.
Another thing that makes people feeling lonely & hurt is because they yearn for acceptance.They want somebody to accept them & make them feel 'worthy'.Now the people out there aren't that kind enough to see what we're going through,instead,they pass on their opinions.
you do good for them,they'll call you 'over helpful',you stop helping them,they'll call you 'rude'.You be nice to them,they'd call you 'sticky'..you stop talking to them,they'd call you 'arrogant'.
That is the problem with trying to please people & searching for approval & acceptance & validation.
In the end,you're just hurting yourself..for whom?for people who don't give a sh!t about you.
It is said "You can't be lonely if you like the person you're alone with"
This quote never fails to change my perception on how my loneliness is not linked with the lack of 'friends' in my life but my issues...ME.
This leads us to the most important question: Are we our worst enemy?
